You’re a failure.
It’s what you’ve said to yourself after failing to stick to achieving a goal.
What’s more, since you’ve failed one goal, you find yourself not achieving the others.
How much can you relate to that situation?
I get it. It’s easier to give up than to be consistent.
But what if I gave you five solid tips to finally stay motivated?
These tips will work for you because they can be done by anyone, anywhere, at any time.
Tip #1: You can’t do everything, everywhere, all at once
Feeling overwhelmed can be the biggest cause of giving up. The more you tell yourself this, the better.
You have so much that you want to get done at once, so you freak yourself out in your own head.
Then, before you know it, you’re not getting anything done.
That’s just counterproductive.
Instead, recognise that you’re not Wonder woman or Superman.
You’ll find that it’s easier and more effective to tackle each task separately.
Block out any other tasks while you work on the task at hand.
By the end of it, you’ll feel yourself on a role, confident to begin the next task instead of feeling completely overwhelmed.
Tip #2: We weren’t joking when we said ‘take a breather’
And no, I don’t mean sit on your phone for the rest of the night after cleaning the dishes.
Or miss your morning class because you plan on finally stopping your procrastination that same evening.
Going back to my previous point: you can’t juggle everything at once.
You might feel like you’re being lazy by taking a break and not getting it all done.
But you’re actually helping yourself.
Taking a break from something and coming back to it with a fresh perspective can really help you move forward.
Tip #3: Set short-term goals
There is a big con to setting long-term goals: you lose motivation easily.
You’re having to be stubbornly consistent because you won’t feel the sense of any achievements for a while.
When you do, it’ll all feel worth it. But until then, it’s easy to be discouraged – you may forget why you set yourself this goal in the first place.
That’s why the pro to setting short-term goals means that they are more achievable. You will feel the reward much quicker.
It’s proven that achieving a goal gives us a boost of self-satisfaction and motivation.
Therefore, it makes sense to have one short-term goal in mind. Once you’ve achieved that, move onto the next.
Your short-term goal could be achievable in a few minutes, a few hours, or even a few weeks.
Tip #4: Understand why you’re really doing it
You have to believe in the thing you’re trying to achieve. This even applies to things you’re trying to change.
If you’re doing it because you think it will please someone else, you will probably lose motivation pretty quickly.
You need to know how this will benefit you.
Get a notepad or your phone and properly assess it.
Write down the advantages and disadvantages of putting the work in to achieve your goal.
When you read it back with a fresh pair of eyes, is it something you think you would want to do?
If the answer is consistently ‘yes’, you know that it’s because it will benefit you.
That will give you the push to keep on going.
Tip #5: Comparison is the thief of joy
I’ve had a salary increase, but I’m still not earning as much as my brother.
My business failed but my friend’s business is booming. It’s not fair.
Has any comparison you made helped you feel better?
I bet it hasn’t.
It’s a big part of why people make goals. They want to change their ways to match or exceed what someone else has managed to achieve.
It’s jealousy, in a way. Even if you don’t want to admit it.
Spend time with your thoughts (but not too much time). You’re allowed to be brutally honest with yourself.
It’s painful, but what you do next will be the thing that makes all the difference.
You’ll discover your confidence, your strengths, your weaknesses, your insecurities.
You’ll learn how and when you compare yourself with others, and how this draws into the goals you have made in your life.
The happier you become with yourself, you’ll find that the only goals you have will be to benefit you.
You’re likely to be far more motivated if you aim to achieve something you genuinely want to achieve.